Seasons of Life – There’s No Such Thing as “Normal”

Four Seasons Tree I’ve been thinking about seasons lately, and how the weather plays havoc with what we like to think of as “normal.” For example, it’s cold when we expect it to be warm, or warm when we expect it to be cold. Flowers poke their heads out of the ground, coaxed by a warm spell, only to be killed off days later by the nighttime chill.

Dead Flower by ninsight

What gives??

Well, guess what? There’s no such thing as normal. Not when we’re talking about weather, and certainly not when we’re talking about life.

According to Feng Shui, our lives, like the weather, also follow certain cycles which you can think of as seasons. I’m not talking about “you’re born, you grow up, you die” here. I’m talking about what is happening in your life at any given moment, what you are feeling and going through, your goals, and your anxieties.

If you can figure out which season you are in in your life, you can see what’s working (and what’s not working) for you.

And now you’re thinking:

But how do I figure out which season I’m in?

Good question!

The Bagua can give you valuable insight. In fact, certain areas of the Bagua correspond to the seasons. You can start by choosing a season to focus on and looking at the two areas of the Bagua that correspond to that season. You will be able to determine pretty quickly where you are and – more importantly – if there are things that are messing with your mojo.

Bagua Map

Since winter is fast-approaching, let’s start there…

   Winter is represented by Career and Knowledge and Wisdom:

If you are feeling confused and overwhelmed, and not sure if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, you should probably focus on this area (Career). Winter is a good time to plant the seeds that will eventually sprout and grow. It’s a time to reflect on where you may be now and where you want to go. The important thing to do if you are in this season of your life is to make sure you are spending time on what energizes you, your purpose.

This is where Knowledge and Wisdom come in: take time to learn more about yourself and your work. Imagine yourself nurturing the seeds that you have planted, and try to find inner strength in your daily practices. The energy in this area will support you in getting clear about your intentions, and will help give you the confidence that good things will come. Make sure you are focused on your intention and that your learning is keeping up with the changes both in your life and around you.

   Spring is represented by Family and Physical Health and Wealth and Prosperity:

This is the time of new beginnings, taking action and creating synergy with others. It is manifested in the Family and Physical Health area. If you aren’t feeling inspired and on track, you are probably in this season. Seek support in business and in life. Make sure you are encouraging quality connections with others. And most importantly, take care of yourself. Pay attention to your eating and exercise habits. This will help you gain the strength and nourishment you need to succeed.

As you move into the Wealth and Prosperity area, you should be getting more comfortable with the changes taking place in your life. If you allow your intentions to manifest, you make it possible for your dreams to become reality. Take care to keep your finances under control, and think about what you can do to allow abundance to flow more freely into your life.

   Summer is represented by Fame and Reputation and Love and Relationships:

If you feel you are not getting the recognition you deserve, or that your relationships are suffering, this is the area to focus on. Think about how you can become more visible to others, and more trustworthy and authentic. Work on your relationships. It may help to start with doing something – even just one thing – to create an environment that reflects who you truly are. Be genuine.

   Autumn is represented by Children and Creativity and Travel and Helpful People:

If you are stuck in a rut with no fresh ideas or you feel you lack the help you need, this is where you need to focus your energy.  Think about what you can do to foster changes. Be creative! Get rid of things that aren’t serving you – which could include people, things, or simply what you may be tolerating. Then try to seek out people who may be able to help you reach your goals. The important thing is to get moving. You won’t get anywhere if you stand still. If you need a new perspective, take a trip.

We are all in different seasons in our lives. The important thing is to know where you are and to make choices that will help you get to where you want to be. Even that can change over time. You have to be flexible and willing to go with the flow. Remember: everything around us is alive, connected, and constantly changing. So we must follow suit!

To help you figure out which season of life you are in, you can:

  1. Ask yourself questions about the different areas of your life.
  2. Look to see what’s happening in those areas of your home (or office).
  3. Take actions to support yourself and create more of what you want.

Remember, there are natural forces at work all around you, and by tapping into them you will be able to go with the flow rather than stand in the way.

Embrace change. In the end, it is the only thing that is certain.


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From Death to Diamonds

Angel Gravestone I don’t know about you, but I have thought a lot about whether I’d rather be buried or cremated. Don’t ask me why. It’s not like I’m obsessed with death or anything. Far from it. And it’s not as if we have a “family plot.” In fact, I’m not even sure where anybody in my family has been buried except my grandfather on my mom’s side, and I didn’t even know him. So really, it doesn’t matter which choice I ultimately make.

I’ve been to several funerals in my life. It felt so weird and creepy to sit in a church and look at the body lying in the casket up front, almost as if the person lying there was simply taking a nap and we were all watching to see if he would wake up. And then afterwards, at the graveyard, everyone standing around the big rectangular hole in the earth, ready to swallow him up. I thought about the body and the wooden coffin rotting in the ground, decomposing into the dirt and water table. Gross. I never was crazy about the idea of burial.

And then there’s cremation. My grandfather was cremated, and my dad carried the urn that contained his ashes around in the back of his car – actually, my grandfather’s car – for days. If I went somewhere with him, I could hear the thing rolling around back there. I thought, That’s my urn for human ashesgrandfather. That was more than a little strange. My mom finally told him to get the thing out of the car, and I have no idea what he did with it after that. Who wants to have their ashes sitting in an urn and nobody knows where it is – or what’s in it? No thank you.

My husband’s father was cremated, and afterwards, he and his mother and his siblings scattered his ashes in Lake Geneva. It was what his father had wanted, since he loved the lake and used to stroll along it all the time. I think that is beautiful. Sometimes when we are in Switzerland visiting my husband’s mother, we walk along the lake and remember him.

That makes me think that maybe I’d like to be cremated after all, and scattered in the Rub al Khali desert, because I grew up in Saudi Arabia and I have such great memories of it.

Arabian desert

Arabian desert

But no, that would be probably be hard for my family to do. They would have to travel halfway around the world and Saudi Arabia doesn’t mean anything to them. They’ve never been there, they’ve never seen the grand sweeping expanse of dunes that shimmer and shift in the desert heat. They haven’t gazed up at the night sky, luminous with a million stars so bright and so close you felt like you could reach up and touch them.

desert sky full of stars

desert sky full of stars

Phosphorescence in the water

They never swam in warm Gulf water that gently lifted your body up with its salty buoyancy, and lit up around you at night in sparkling streaks of phosphorescence. And it’s not like they could go there whenever they felt like it, and remember me. No, I guess that would be asking too much.

And then yesterday I read this article about a man in Switzerland who creates tiny diamonds out of the ashes of the dead. He does this in a beautiful and respectful way, honoring the family as well as the departed in every step of the process. I really love the whole idea of it. I think that is what I’d like to have done after I die. And then whoever feels like they’d like to have the little keepsake can have it. They can even pass it around amongst themselves every year if they want to. And they would know I would always be with them. I wouldn’t be decomposing in a hole in the ground, in a place that means nothing to me, or occupying an unsightly urn on a bookshelf or mantle (or God forbid, in the back of a car).

And, maybe someday, someone might even be inspired to take a trip to Saudi Arabia, and toss me out among the dunes or in the crystal blue water of the Gulf. That would be nice, too.

You can read about the man in Switzerland who is making the diamonds here.

I’d love to know your thoughts on this subject, so please feel free to comment. Or just take part in my poll:

PS A blogger I follow wrote a great post about the week’s events and the importance of passing the Death With Dignity Act nationwide. Check out her post here.

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